As I was scrolling through my Instagram feed the other day I came across a picture of a beautiful young woman with an amazingly beautiful body posing in front of a mirror. It wasn't until I read the caption that I learned she was but THREE weeks postpartum after just having TWINS and already back to her "pre-pregnancy" weight!
HOW IN THE WORLD DID SHE JUST HAVE TWINS THREE WEEKS AGO? I JUST HAD ONE BABY THREE WEEKS AGO AND I DON'T LOOK LIKE THAT! NOT EVEN CLOSE!
Immediately all these self-inflicting thoughts started making their way into my head and I could tangibly feel my institution of self-worth begin to crumble as I instinctively began comparing myself to this taut, gorgeous young woman.
How could she look like that? How could I look like this? What is she doing that I'm not? I really need to lay off the cookies. But I'm hungry all the time and I barely have time to feed myself. I'll never look like her!
Just like that, I went from feeling really good about myself 3 weeks postpartum, to literally loathing every inch of my body. Just from looking at ONE PICTURE!
Now, I know this is a common struggle for many of us. Heck, weight has always been a major struggle for woman across the nation, not to mention that it is one of the most talked about topics across the globe!
"She's too fat. She's too skinny. Wow, she looks GREAT after having a baby! WOAH...I can't believe she's not back down to her pre-pregnancy weight yet." Woman are constantly being haggled about their weight...and I'm sick of it!
Weight is such a private issue. Why do we feel the need to throw it around like some socially acceptable way to determine our worth in society? Why does it have to "make or break" who we are as a person?
I understand our nation’s battle against obesity and I understand that it is a VERY real issue that needs to be addressed but what do we gain from splashing under sized, over digitized, malnourished women across billboards and magazine covers?
OH I KNOW...eating disorders and body dysmorphia.
I'm not against women taking pride in their bodies...ESPECIALLY after having babies, regardless of what size they are and how much weight they've lost. [ This issue is incredibly sensitive and has the potential to create mental and physical illnesses and I believe it is one we need to stop feeding into.].
Call me cynical, or insecure but I believe that we should check our hearts and motives before plastering ourselves across social media by first asking a few questions, like, “What do I hope to gain by posting?” and/or “How will it affect those who see it?” Once we open the doors and expose such private information about what we might feel is rewarding (such as our weight loss), we really are inviting a whole bunch of unfiltered and often unkind opinions.
Women have been comparing themselves to one another since elementary school, whether good or bad we all know it is a very dangerous “game” and one that leads to many insecurities. I, personally, don't want readers to come to my website and feel like they could and would never measure up to me because they might compare themselves to my weight/size.
Just because my weight is “x” doesn’t mean I am a better person then they are or that I’ve got my health together more then they do. I struggle with weight and eating healthy just like the rest of you. Do I want to get it right? Absolutely. Do I want to be the best version of myself physically? 100%. But the truth is, as much as I want eating and working out to be my #1 priority right now, it's just not. And I'm ok with that. As long as I am working at being the best wife and a mother that I can be then I'm doing my job and am more than content with that.
So there. That's why I will not post about my pre-pregnancy weight. I am young, healthy, strong and am pretty in tune with my body. Am I doing it all right? No. Do I have my health in order all the time? Nope. But I care enough about my body to love it the way that it needs to be loved, not how society is telling me I need to love it.
So for all of you out there struggling with the notion that you need to look a certain way after just having a baby (or in general) stop and listen. What does YOUR body need right now? And what can YOU do to help it achieve that? You are beautiful just the way you are and no one has the right to tell you otherwise!
As always, I am so thankful you stopped by! xoxo