Encouraging your spouse can be one of the hardest things that you will do in your marriage. There comes a time when your "after morning" glow fades and you no longer care what you look like when you wake up beside the love of your life. Bickering about who's turn it is to empty the dishwasher has now become a daily battle and you can't remember the last time you peed with the door closed. The glamour is simply gone and in it's place are days filled with unintentional remarks between you and your spouse as you walk out the door for work. What has happened? And what can I do to fix it?
It's easy to forget a vital ingredient to a person's happiness when you're constantly worrying about your own. You see...in marriage, it often gets hard to constantly "ooo" and "ahh" over your loved one when life GETS REAL. But it's incredibly important to remember that just as much as you long to be loved and encouraged...so does your spouse! Here are a couple reasons why encouraging your spouse is fatal to sustaining a healthy marriage.
1. It's more rewarding to them than you think
Giving your spouse a compliment or encouraging them in their work may seem a little bit forced or uncomfortable to you at first but after seeing how one tiny compliment can turn around his or her day you will soon realize the immense power of encouragement.
2. It will change the way they view themselves
Hearing words of affirmation and confirmation coming from the person you love most is a huge self-esteem booster. Think about when you get a compliment from someone you greatly admire...it makes you feel like a freaking rock star. You feel like you could go out and do anything. That's how we should be as spouses too...cheering on our spouse however goofy that may look!
3. It reminds them that you still believe in them
Knowing that you believe in them and cherish who they are can change the total atmosphere of your marriage. When you can work together as a team to accomplish one goal you are 10 times more likely to succeed than trying to do it alone. Assuring your spouse that you believe in them will make them even more motivated to achieve their goals.
4. Makes them more prone to encourage you
When you push yourself to encourage the person you love most, it will cause the same chain reaction in your spouse as well. Creating this type of environment for your spouse to thrive in will allow him/her to open up their hearts to encouraging you.
These may seem like "duh" reasons but I can honestly say that by intentionally encouraging my husband I have seen dramatic growth in not only my marriage but in the character of my spouse. If you feel like encouraging your spouse is a difficult task for your as well, tell me why in the comments below. Because I'm sure I've felt the very same thing!