Calling all haters!!! Jk...I'm not about all that hater drama but I will say one thing after experiencing some negative backlash on Instagram the other day...DON'T SHAME ON ME!
LISTEN...I do my very VERY best to be a great mom, like I (FOR REAL) lay awake at night beating myself up about the things I should have done different that day, or the way I could have been better. I also give up a lot of things to be a mom (ahem...my dream of being a hand model...JOKES) but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't consciously give it my all.
You can't "check out" of motherhood; there's no sick days, no lunch breaks, no mentally checking out for quick second without getting yelled at. It's a constant, everyday, in your face kind of job; and it's a constant, everyday, in your face kind of love that I aim to give my children.
However, I'm not perfect. I know I mess up.
Daily. Hence...laying awake at night.
I know there are going to be times that I didn't do "x y and z" right, I know there are going to be days that I probably should have done more.
But listen here...I don't know a lot of you like you may feel like you know me.
So when I have people get behind their computer screens and tell me "shame on you" all I have to say about that is, PLEASE don't shame on me!
Trust me when I say that there is no one out there that knows more than me that I fail at parenting every. single. day. You guys...I know that there are just days that I really suck at my day job.
Trust me. I'm working on it.
This whole "shaming" thing has just got to stop. It's not effective, it's not loving, and it's not acceptable. I get it...we live in a broken world and there are A LOT of dumb idiots out there corrupting a lot of innocent beautiful things in this world. But let's face it...this isn't a new reality. I remember my mom saying to me as a kid, "there is nothing new under the sun;" there has, and always will be sick, twisted, and confused humans walking this planet and GUESS WHAT...I can't control that.
We have a choice that we can make every single day...we can live in fear of all the bad things that could happen to us OR we can live in joy and walk out the desires that God has put in our heart. And I tell you what...as easy as it is for me to pick living in fear everyday, as long as I live and breath, I will ALWAYS choose joy.
Two years ago God gave me this burning passion to use my voice; to take something that I thought was going to ruin my life forever, and turn it into a vessel for spreading hope, life, and abundance. You see...as much as you may think you know me...you probably didn't know that I grew up in a small town with a family that went to church every. single. Sunday. You probably didn't know that the idea of drinking, doing drugs, or having sex was completely out of the question (much less a thought you dared to have). You probably didn't know that out of high school I got a scholarship to pursue my springboard diving career at the University of Illinois. You probably didn't know that the Spring semester of my junior year I found out I was pregnant. You also probably didn't know that getting pregnant caused me to drop out of diving, change the course of my academic studies, loose my best friends, and speed up the course of my proposal to my now husband.
You had no idea about these things because I have never shared them on here...not even once. What I once thought was a story of failure has in time become one of the most beautiful stories I've ever heard. God took something so unredeemable, so broken, and He made it whole again.
So when I share my life, when I share my trials and my triumphs as a mother, wife, and entrepreneur, it's because God gave me the desire to take something so broken and use it to glorify Him. I don't do this for anyone, I don't do this for page views, likes, or clicks (in fact I hate checking my stats because I get discouraged); I do this because I truly desire to see women, like me, be able to turn their lives, broken or not, into lives that they can call beautiful.
So the next time you want to "shame" someone, remember...you probably don't know their story.
As always thank you for stopping by! xoxo, Tessa
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